Saturday, December 31, 2011

2011 in review

2011 was a really fun year! 2012 is going to be even better! Here are some highlights of my year. Truthfully I had far more epicness than I can fit into a post that won’t put us both to sleep. Still, I think this will cover some fun stuff.

January was the start of the New Year. In my office we were missing some of the students who graduated and left. As a collective group we drew collages for them. Someone drew a rendition of the person and then we all put expressions, and other art that reminded us of the person.  

February reminded me that nerds like me are everywhere. I found graffiti in the women’s bathroom at a restaurant. It reads: Make Love Not Horcruxes and has the Deathly Hallows symbol. It made me happy.

Also, that month I got a little joke played that just shows how fun and awesome my daughter is. I had neglected my breakfast grits for a meeting. When I came back there was a sad face in them – compliments of Lana.

March brought us Megacon. Conventions are the only time of year I can wear THIS hair. I love this hair!

April was the family vacation. We all piled onto the Disney Dream and had an amazing cruise. It was the best ship I have ever ever been on.

The ship was so fancy that it had mirrors in the bathroom stalls!

In May Jimmy Wong (youtube sensation) spent some time tweeting to all of the members of the office! We all fangirled (and Barry fanboyed) about spending about an hour conversing with him online. So we sent him a group photo.

In June I took the kids to Universal Studios and Islands of Adventure. You know what that means – Wizarding World of Harry Potter!

July was Leaky Con! This traveling Harry Potter convention was in Orlando this year. I got to see my fav Wizard Wrock (Draco and the Malfoys) band play! I also got to see other awesome Wrock bands play too. I met Kristina Horner! Brian Malfoy! Hank Green! Jason Munday! Alex Carpenter! Danced 10 feet away from where Evanna Lynch was dancing! Oh, and Luke Conard offered to take his shirt off for me. I only said no because I needed another favor from him. XP But in general, just so many awesome things!!!!!  Bumped into old friends like Moody (aka Andrew) and made new friends like Lucius (aka Perseus).

Scar photobombed this intimate moment with me and Luke.

But the super awesome part was that I got to experience all of this with my bestie! Scar (Scarlett – aka Louanne) and her hubby Marcos were there too! I stayed in their hotel which was super duper cool. I hung with them the whole time I was there. I LOVE these people.

(note: I cannot find my pics but a summer highlight was seeing old friends from highschool! Hanging with Lora and Sarah was just like old times!)

In August my daughter turned 21. I asked her where she wanted to go celebrate. She chose Disney World. So we went! We had a lot of fun at the Magic Kingdom and Epcot. It was just so much fun. And we stayed in the Pirate rooms on Disney property. It was just freakin awesome.

THEN we got another highlight! Finally after all these years I got to meet Miri (aka Ruzena)!!   She brought her new hubby and Jeremy and I bonded over Final Fantasy. It was a fun dinner with them.

Dragoncon is always in September. Labor Day weekend is one of my fav weekends of the year because of that. This year we brought the kids! They costumed as Brock, Ash, and Misty.

Myself, Kris, Lana, and Anna all picked someone from Final Fantasy. I said in 97 I wanted to dress like Aeris someday – and I finally did!

And let’s not forget I got to meet the legendary Wil Wheaton!

In October the Anime Club hosted the Fall Game Night along with the Library staff (who are always supportive and awesome in this twice a year event). We decorated for Halloween and even had a costume contest. Such fun. It was like a mini-convention!

November showed me some real camaraderie. One of my Anime kids was in a wreck on campus. As each of the Anime Club members drove by they stopped to wait with her until the whole scene was cleared up. Since we were all starving by then we headed to Cazbors for food. It was freezing that night. We all brought out extra hoodies for those friends who had none. In the end we not only supported Sparks, we supported each other. I. Love. These. Kids.
Johnny is missing because he was taking the photo.

Also in November we started working on the annual college Christmas Float.

December we got to show the float off! We were pretty proud of it. We had more prop trouble than I could explain, but in the end it all came together and it was really pretty. Also, the parade was fun as always.

Christmas! ‘Nuff said.  

Monday, December 26, 2011

Christmas gifts, and a few deep(ish) thoughts..

It’s that time of year when Christmas reminds me how very blessed I am in my life. I have had Christmases so poor I couldn’t afford Christmas Cards, and Christmases so indulgent I bought way more than I should admit. But more than any of the material things, the one thing that has stayed consistent is my friends and family. I have never found myself alone on Christmas. Now I don’t mean physically alone, sometimes I have had to work and not been able to have family festivities, but I knew my family and friends loved me even if I wasn’t there/there. And truly, above all else, that’s a miracle. Sometimes I am not so loveable. They  love me anyway.  And for that I am grateful.

On the fun side of the holiday.. I have to tell you, I got some really cool stuff this year! I have grown more and more fond of the giving part of Christmas. As a child it was about whatever I got – as I get older I am more and more excited about what I give. I love seeing people like what I got them! I like to think I am a pretty good gift giver. But this post is to show you what cool people I have in my life. So let’s talk gifts! I couldn’t possibly cover them all, but I want to share a few amazing things. I loved every single gift I got, please don’t get me wrong – but some were just really like..whoa.

My mom got me a mirror armoire for my jewelry. We had no full length mirrors in the house, so now we do! Also, I have so much jewelry (I am a fan of $10 big bold jewelry) and no place to put it all. So now I have one central location. It’s just beautiful! Also, a reality check – where did all that butt come from?!

My daughter got me a Daichi Miura CD. Might sound boring, it’s just a CD. Except it’s not! This is my Japanese singing obsession. If any star can turn me away from Keanu, it’s this guy (or Ming Na!). I love the way Daichi sings and I love the way he dances. His heart goes into his music. He can dance like no other. And his little boy smile that shows his heart of pure gold is just .. there are no words for him. I love him in all ways a fan can love a singer. However… he is NOT available in America. I have searched high and low. Nothing. But my daughter ordered this CD from across the ocean. It’s real. And it is amazing.

My sister got me a framed piece of art. The artwork combines 2 of my favorite things. It is Star Wars meets Where The Wild Things Are. Luke starts as Max, various SW creatures play the Wild Things. It is just..awesome. Star Wars, as you all know, is my obsession. Where The Wild Things Are is another favorite of my life. I grew up reading it. I just felt like I knew what it was like to be Max. I understood him. I got it. When I felt like nobody else in the world could understand me, I would think about Max. I knew Max got me like I got him. Not to mention the entire world Max played in with the Wild Things. What an amazing place! So now I have SW and WTWTA all in one.

Another of my top 5 amazing gifts was given to me by the lovely Joy. Warner Brothers released a limited edition Harry Potter Deathly Hallows watch. There were less than a thousand made. She made sure I got one. As a lover of watches and a Harry Potter lover, this is just awesome. Also, I love being able to say it’s limited edition. Now I have other limited edition watches and I normally do not wear them. I keep them on display. But I have recently got to thinking: who sees them? On display in my bedroom, who sees them? Nobody. On my wrist who sees it? Everyone! So I am wearing this gorgeous Deathly Hallows watch.

I feel a little weird listing some of my favs. I really did like everything I got. Tons of socks (YES!), nail polish, Queen Amidala shirt, Star Wars earrings, a messenger bag, butterfly mirror, peacock necklace, limited edition lipglosses, the coolest stapler in the world.. OH let me tell you about that.

It’s called a Stampler. My son got it for me. When I staple papers there is also a stamp around it. The staple becomes the smile of a smiley face and it reads “Have a nice day.” I thought that was so cool!! Can’t wait to staple things and send them around the campus.

I am really fortunate to be surrounded by good gift givers. Not really the amount they spend, but what it is. I really would prefer a $5 gift of something I truly love than a $50 gift of something that will sit on my shelf forgotten.

Thanks for letting me gush over these awesome gifts. Feel free to tell me about you favs. I have already been getting Tweets and Facebook messages about peoples favs. You can tell me here too! 

Sunday, December 18, 2011

Martian Death Flu, North Carolina, Free stuff, and Reading!

The Martian Death Flu has had me at its mercy for five solidly intense days. It feels like three weeks. I believe I am starting to recover and I hope I am correct. Christmas is SO SOON! I would hate to be ill during the festivities. Lots of OJ, Vitamin C pills, more Thera-flu than I can recall, and tons of rest have been my friends. Also, I have a loving relationship with a box of Puffs Plus with Lotion now.

Unfortunately I was sick during FINALS WEEK! I did get my results back on my Statistics and Research final and I got an 81. Not what I wished for but so much better than it could have been. I felt like death warmed over the night I took it. I’ll not complain about the B. I am still waiting on the results of my other final, and a term paper. At this point I’ll be happy with passing grades instead of my usual stressing about OMG MUST MAKE BEST GRADES EVER!

I had to cancel my trip to North Carolina because I was just too sick to drive. Also, who wants to purposefully pass the Martian Death Flu to other people? Not me. So I have to go at another time. I will though. Nothing will stop me indefinitely.

In other non sicky news, I got chosen to sample some products and review them for this company. Then a few days later I got another offer from a different company to do the same. I feel really excited about that. My beauty blogging is paying off already! I need to do more vlogs also. I’ll review stuff in vlog format in addition to blogging. I don’t have an awesome camera though. I have horrible lighting too. Horrible. I’ll work on it though. Nobody starts at the top, right?

In other other non sicky news I met my Goodreads challenge for 2011!! I am super happy about that. Granted it wasn’t a dramatically difficult challenge, but considering I work full time and go to school full time and am a single parent, I think a book a month is a reasonable challenge. I am setting myself up for 13 books next year since I have to take one semester off due to financial aid thingees. Should I go for 14?!?! 

Sunday, December 4, 2011

Christmas, NaNo, beauty blogging, and Joy.

Christmas is coming! I have done so much shopping but still have some to do. I just love this time of year. As a kid it was all the presents I get - but as I get older it truly is about the ones I give! Seeing other people get excited over something I have done really makes me happy. It's like a high I can get from nothing else. YAY presents!.. or as my dear bestie Scar says.. Prezzies!

IN addition to this, NaNoWriMo is over. I hit 19,222 words this year. My personal goal was 20K. I knew that with taking a 15 credit semester, work, Trey's science fair project, Mom unable to drive (I am infact the only driver in the house), trips to Grandma's, etc etc etc, I would never hit 50K. I didn't set myself up for failure - I gave myself a new goal. And I was THIS close to making it. I'll count it as a victory for myself.

Also, incase you didn't know, I started a beauty blog a while ago. My rate of views on the blog is growing every day. I focus on lipstuff ("I love my lipstick!" as my boss likes to say my catchphrase is.)  but I dabble in other beauty things too. Note: beauty is more than your face, it's in your soul and I blog about that too.

I'm taking a trip to the Carolina's soon. There is a breath of fresh air waiting for me.

Monday, October 31, 2011

A little NaNo talk..

NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writers Month) is a yearly event that sends tens of thousands of novelists into a frenzy. This year is no exception. I am one of the novelist.

“But Yume (or DJ or Cissy or whatever you call me), how do you find the time to write 50 thousand words in 30 days?” Let me answer that for you. I don’t find time – I have to make time. 50K words breaks down to 1667 words a day. That’s a LOT of words to do for 30 days straight. The first week you’re on fire! After that, it gets harder.

But I love it. Each year I write something I have never written before. Sometimes even new genre’s. last year I wrote a pirate story. I did pretty well for a new genre, but then I ran out of ideas. It was too much of a foreign territory. No worries though, it is saved. I have a real feeling that story will come back to me in time and I will know what to do with it then.

This year I have a story with ghosts and spirits and angels and such. This is new for me. I think I’ll be fine with ideas though. Time is short so that will be my biggest challenge. But I think I will be fine. I am really excited about my new characters. Clementine is really neat. So is Stone. I have a lot of excitement for that.

Anyhow.. some of you have dealt with me before in November. If so you know your job. If you’re new let me advise you of your job. If you see me screwing off you have permission to fuss at me with a simple yet effective “WRITE Dammit Write!” 

Thursday, October 20, 2011

10 Commandments of NaNoWriMo for 2011

These are mine. Yours may vary.

10 Commandments of NaNoWriMo

1)      Thou shall be very selective of internet time until thine word count has met it's daily goal..
2)      Thou shall follow thy characters wherever they may lead, for they know their story better than thee.
3)      Thou shall remember to sleep.
4)      Thou shall not neglect thine homework or tests.
5)      Thou shall allow thyself the nectar of the gods without guilt, for Pepsi keeps us sane.
6)      Thou shall get ahead of the word count whenever the ability arises so that it will balance on days when inspiration or time is lacking.
7)      Thou shall not neglect thy crowning glory of hair, nor thy eye makeup.
8)      Thou shall remember that fruit edible by fingers is thine friend, as are Stouffers animal crackers.
9)      Thou shall have a scrunchie available at all times to pull back thy crowning glory.
10)   Thou shall not delete a sentence for thine NaNoAngel will lose it's wings and plummet to the ground.

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

Run For Your Lives

I never did wrap up Dragon*con or talk about Pottermore further. Someday I will.

What I am here to blog about is something else entirely. It started with Scar. She posted a link to her husband (I think) that she wanted to do a Zombie 5K run in Austin in December 2012. I posted it on my Twitter asking for any takers for the Atlanta run. I didn’t expect any! But..

My sister replied. She lives in Atlanta. She was game. Well, nothing much else was said from there. Given the fact my sister nor I are runners the idea seems crazy. It seems even crazier because the run is in exactly 5 months. Not 5.5 months, not almost 6 months – 5 months from yesterday. Holy cow! No way we can be ready, right?

Well Monday, exactly 5 months from the run, I got up at 5 in the morning to start exercising. I did not run because I lack tennis shoes (I live in Florida. I have flip flops and work shoes.) and also I probably need a good sports bra less I injure myself. So this weekend I should have time to go shopping for these items. I live in a small town – our shoe stores are Walmart and JC Pennys and one sports store that caters to everything (Not even sure if they have shoes to be honest.)

In addition to these things I had been holding onto a friends site of Couch-to-5K. I sent it to my sister because guess what – she started running in Atlanta today! I had no idea she was serious about the run. Sooooo seems siblings stay on the wavelength even without meaning to! After sending her the link I started looking around for something else and found a better Couch-to-5K link. I sent her that too.

The obstacles of the course will likely cause me to end up a Zombie. Still, I want to do it. I want to say I did it! Even at my very best shape (and some of ya’ll know how amazingly in shape I used to be) I could have NEVER scaled a wall. I don’t set my sights that high now. But I have my sights on completing that course, Zombie or Human, I will cross that line!

Sunday, August 28, 2011

Dragon*con is almost here! (and Uni and Pottermore)

I think my nasty cold will be gone by then. I have been doped up on cold meds all week. And I have taken more vitamins than I can count! Yesterday I had given up hope of being better but today I seem a lot better. Or course last week I was almost well wehn cold 2.0 slammed me. SO hopefully this time it is for real. I want to be well!

This year I wil be debuting my Aeris costume. She is from Final Fantasy VII. My sister will be Yuna from FF X. Anna will be Lightening from FF XIII. Lana will be a mystery FF person - she won't tell us. We have to wait.

I had bought new Narcissa clothing but they didn't work out. The shirt is BEAUTIFUL but it is sooooooooooo hot. I was sweating in the movie theater just sitting there. Imagine if I try to have fun at the Yule Ball! So I will be back in my traditional Cissy clothes. It's okay. They aren't bad or anything, I just wanted an upgrade is all.

My son is coming this year. He will be Brock from Pokemon. I am excited for him.

I guess that is it for now. I have so much homework today - it's the last day of the semester. Next week I start my 15 credit semester. Why do I torture myself this way?!?! Because I love it. I do.

Also, my Pottermore email hasn't come to let me in/in. Most of us Beta testers aren't in yet. They are letting us in really slowly. I'm still glad to be a Beta. I know my time will come soon enough. 

Monday, August 15, 2011

Pottermore survey

I saw this on Kristina Horner's blog and liked it. So I filled it out too!

  1. What's your Pottermore username? ChaserWolf60
  2. What House do you think it sounds like? Ravenclaw. I say this because I think ChaserWolf sounds like a spy name. I basically could call James Bond and be like “007, this is ChaserWolf..” and spies have to be really smart.  
  3. What House do you want to be in? From the beginning of my Potter obsession I have identified with Slytherin. I am ambitious. I can be cunning. And I have been known to be a snob from time to time. Still, in all honesty I see some of all the houses in me. I’ve always considered myself a Slytherin and at first I was in a full panic of “What if I don’t get sorted into Slytherin?!?!?!” but I have really gotten to where I am just excited to see what the Sorting Hat does. I will be thrilled with being sorted into Slytherin because then I know I was right when I identified with it. But, if I don’t get into Slytherin I will be okay. Getting into Gryffindor will freak me out. Seriously. But Ravenclaw or Hufflepuff will be fine with me. My preference order is Slytherin, Ravenclaw, Hufflepuff, and Gryffindor.
  4. Does your username relate to you at all? I think so! I’ve been Werewolf obsessed since I was a kid (took the book The Howling to Girl Scout camp when I was 10 – yeah, I was THAT girl.) I’m constantly chasing things such as wisdom, peace, Keanu Reeves, and the perfect glass of iced tea..  
  5. What kind of wand would you wish to get? In my mind I always imagined Willow with Dragon Heartstring but I trust Pottermore to do what’s right. Whatever I get, I think it will be good for me and probably awesome.  
  6. Are you pure, half-blooded or Muggle born? Half blood.  Ugh - there.. I said it publicly! UGH!
  7. Which day did you get into Pottermore? Day 3. The sun wasn’t even up! It was pretty awesome. I stumbled across Pottermore being open on accident. All the other times I had tried it was not clue time. So I wasn't expecting it to be open this time either - but I had to look. I was putting on makeup for work, stopped to check Pottermore just out of curiosity and boom, there it was.. open with a clue! My heart stopped, my hands shook.. but I got in!  
  8. What shape is your Patronus? Lion. Hands down, this is a no brainer.
  9. What does your boggart look like? A fish. Merlin help me – a fish.
  10. Would you rather be an Animagus or a Matamorphmagus? Matamorphmagus. That would be super cool. Animagus would be cool too, don’t get me wrong.
  11. If you were an Animagus, what animal would you be? Wolf. That would be super awesome.

Saturday, August 6, 2011

Reading: the right to do so wherever and however

The thing about e-reading is that you don’t get the feel of cover, the smell of the pages.. the nostalgia of curling up with a good book beside a fireplace while it storms a winter snow outside.

The reality of my life is that I don’t have time to curl up by the fire and sip cocoa while I shut off the world and lose myself in a book. I did when I was 19, but I also had very little responsibilities. I now work full time. I attend Saint Leo University full time. I am a single mom of two. I run errands. I cook dinner. I am also a taxi. I am blessed that my daughter does dishes and my son helps with laundry. But I also try to spend some quality time with my kids, even if it’s not as much as some say I should.

So where do I have time to read? Where do I have time to pull a book off a shelf, lower the lights, pour some wine, turn Mozart on low, and forget the world?  I don’t.

What I DO have time for is reading on the fly. Waiting for my child in the dentist waiting room I can pull out my cell phone and use my Nook app. Boom, 20 pages later we leave the dentist go to the next destination. At my sister’s house, her husband calls her and wants to chat from work. I whip out my e-reader and score several pages before I have her attention again. The pharmacy forgot to have my prescription ready – I sit in the chairs and find 11 pages gone before they call my name. I’m about to pass out when I finally get to bed. I cram 10 pages in my head before falling asleep reading. In the old days I scrambled through the paper book to see where I might have left off. My electronic reader bookmarks for me. All is well.

So whereas I still love hard bound books, and I still dream of having a massive library in my house some day when I have one big enough, I also live in the real world. So many people are living in the romantic ideas of hard books that they shun those of us trying to scramble for time to read whenever and wherever we can. Isn’t the entire point of reading – to read? Why does it matter if my book is hardbound, paperback, or even an e-book? I. Am. Reading. I have every right to get lost in a story as you do even though I can’t always lug around a hardcover just incase I can squeeze in 10 minutes to read. I would rather read on my e-reader than never have time and opportunity to sit with the traditional books. Do not judge me. I am a story lover just like you. I deserve your support as a fellow reader – not your attitude because you’re a paper snob. 

Tuesday, August 2, 2011

Pottermore.. getting in was an experience!

My alarm goes off at 6:07 in the morning. 6:05 is too early, 6:10 is too late. So at precisely 6:07 the alarm sounds off like a rally cry to start the day. I have snooze set for 5 minute increments. Normally I hit it once. Sometimes twice. Today I snoozed until 6:32. I followed my normal routine. Restroom, take the dog out for his morning relief, then feed him. I sat in my chair and applied my moisturizer. Typical morning. A little behind, but otherwise typical.

While waiting on the moisturizer to absorb I normally check Twitter and Facebook on my phone. I left the phone in the bedroom. No biggie. Grabbed my laptop. Saw a post from Kristina Horner on Twitter that had her user name for Pottermore. I smiled and thought “YAY Kristina!”. I moved over to Facebook and saw my friend Andrew, aka, Mad-Eye Moody, posted he got into Pottermore and it was time stamped 28 seconds ago!

My heart hit my stomach, or my stomach lurched to my heart. Not sure which organ moved but I was immediately excited and nervous all at once. I rushed over to It was sitting there with a clue! AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!

The clue read: "In the Gryffindor versus Slytherin Quidditch match, in Harry's third year, how many points is Gryffindor leading by before Harry catches the Golden Snitch? Multiply this number by 35."  Yeah, I know THAT off the top of my head!

Anyway, after getting the answer I did the URL thingee you have to do. Low and behold a page showed up that looked much like a random webpage talking about Harry Potter. It was a UK site (I saw that in the URL). I was confused, and grumpy. How could I have messed up?!?!?!?!?!  Then I saw, on the right, was a purplish square and a quill sitting at the bottom of the square. I was in the right place! Now, I had to make the quill float.

Saying Wingardium Leviosa did not make it float. It was worth a try. I ran my mouse in the area and it began to float. Then it crashed back down. AH! Don’t tell me I was going to miss out on Pottermore over THIS part. So I tried it again. Same results. A third time. Same results. My hands were trembling intensely. Nerves were raw. Heart was racing even harder. I was going to miss out over the quill!  Then I heard Hermione’s voice in my head remind me that repeating a pattern will repeat results. So I tried something different with the mouse. And my quill floated!!!!!!!! Thank you Miss Granger! 10 points to Gryffindor!

I was given a link to click to “Begin your journey.”  This was like being handed a note saying to go to Platform 9 ¾. My heart was still pounding. My hands were still shaking. I arrived at the next step and was asked for my name, birth date, email address, country, and password. The excitement was so much that it took all I had to stay in my seat! I wanted to jump up and down! But I wasn’t done. I clicked enter and was taken to yet another page.

It was the book with the names of magical children who should receive Owls to Hogwarts. My name was at the top of the list. I screen printed! Then I was at a place where I was given 5 randomly selected names to choose from.  I didn’t screen print this page to show you all the random choices, but in the end I chose ChaserWolf60. As most of you know, I am of Werewolf, Vampire, Klingon, Wizard blood. So Wolf made sense to me!  Am I a Chaser? Not in the Quidditch sense. But I am a chaser. Of dreams, of knowledge, of enlightenment, of the perfect glass of tea. So ChaserWolf makes complete sense.  

I. Was. In.

I hit Twitter and Facebook straight away to announce my joy. Sorry about the all caps folks but I was more excited than you can imagine.  With Pottermore only taking a million beta testers before it opens up in October for everyone it is a special thing to us die hard Potterheads.  The release of clues is at random times and they only take less than 150K people per day. This is intense. I feel very lucky.

I received my email a little under an hour later. This was like my letter to Hogwarts. I nearly died. What I wait for now is my invitation to officially explore Pottermore. This will roll out in the next few weeks. That, my friends, will be like boarding the Hogwarts Express. No words for how exciting this is.

One of the things I most look forward to, in addition to all the new material (we rabidly want that!) is the Sorting Hat quiz. These questions were written by Queen Rowling herself. This is as close as we will come to being actually sorted. I am sure it will come out Slytherin, but I really want to see it for myself. I want to know that I have been right about who I was all this time.

Good luck to those of you still trying to get into the beta. It’s okay if you don’t make it – there is October and it will be open for everyone. I look forward to seeing you all around the Castle! 

Sunday, July 31, 2011

Lions and Turtles and kids books, oh my!

When I became a dedicated author I realized my love of sci-fi was not a blessing in my gift of writing. I let me fingers flow and discovered I was a Young Adult Lit writer. So I embraced it and my writing life has been so happy.

I really do adore turtles and lions. SO much so that I have an abundance of plushies, jewelry, etc (Turtle tattoo coming soon to an ankle near you!) Some of these have taken on “personalities”. My plushie High5 even has a facebook page because my friends like to see him “in action”. Seeing his personality unfold and the stories some friends and I make up for him, I thought “childrens book!” … well…. I have a whole new appreciation for authors of kid’s books. I thought to myself “I can write 250-300 page young adult novels. A 20 page children’s book should be a snap!” How very wrong I was. It seems much harder to convey a story in so few pages and such simple words. I admire those people in a way I never did before.

My turtle and lion love will live on in my fantasy YA novels as supporting characters, but Yoda knows making them a star in a kids book is one task I was not created for. It seems our genre’s truly do pick us. 

Thursday, July 28, 2011

Nerd vs Geek – an internal conflict

The first thing I am is a writer. Basically it is write or die for me. Sometimes even interoffice memos become colored in floral adjectives and seasoned with spicy verbs.

Normally this pays off when I am trying to write a paper for college. The ability to bend words to my will can help me express knowledge of the material in ways that a rote memorization test simply can’t. If a class requires writing, I can pass it, and usually pass it well. (Unlike math which sucks my very will to live!) My GPA (3.45 currently) is very important to me so I work hard at college, which I attend full time while also working full time and being a single mom. Why yes, I am a fan of torture, thanks for asking!

Another talent/curse is that I can relate anything in the world to something geeky. I can find a way to make your spilled coffee relate to something Yoda said, or something Link fought in the Ocerena of time, or something Spock found on an away mission, or something Dumbledore told Harry in secret, etc etc etc.

What happens at times, though, is that my nerd self starts getting over run by my geek self. Last week I struggled hard. I even went public on Twitter and Facebook with my struggle. One of my classes this semester is Building a Sustainable Society – aka an environmental course. The topic at hand was a term paper on wildernesses that remain and how do we feel about their protection and destruction. Then we had to discuss any wilderness areas around us.

My first thought  (literally) was “Chocobo Forest!” At first I laughed at myself in a way of appreciation for my geeky humor. Then I started on a serious project. But the Chocobo Forest wouldn’t leave my brain. That’s when I hit the social networks. I really thought my interwebz people would remind my nerd side to take charge. I was so wrong. They fed the geek side. By the way, thanks for all the “Screw the grades, go for the geeky!” comments. You guys are the best enablers a girl ever had.  The struggle internally grew. Would my teacher appreciate some fictional world from Final Fantasy? What if I also included the Forest of Endor, or the Hundred Acre Wood, maybe the Forbidden Forest?? The possibilities were endless!

So was the risk of a B. Or worse.

In the end I stayed true to nerd and gave my very best and serious effort. (It paid off, I got a perfect 100% score.) Still, I couldn’t help but wonder if I would have still gotten a good grade if I included fictional places in a serious effort to explain why forests are needed.

I can’t help but wonder if my other nerdy/geeky friends find this conflict inside themselves as well. If so – what do you guys do about it? Which side wins?  

Thursday, July 21, 2011

Most of us will agree with this man..

When I’m 80 years old and sitting in my rocking chair, I’ll be reading Harry Potter. And my family will say to me, “After all this time?” And I will say, “Always.” ~Alan Rickman

Monday, July 18, 2011

LeakyCon 2012

 I’ve been doing the convention scene (several a year all over the country) for almost a decade and I have never had the experience I had there. At first I was daring to say it was the best, but after coming down off the high (a little bit) I realize that saying it is better or best is a slap in the face to the other amazing conventions I go to. What I realized about Leaky is that it is just completely different. The attendees are different. The entertainment is different. Not better, just different. 

Before I get involved in the recap and thoughts, I need to share this: I couldn’t have done any of it without Scar and her husband Marcos. It would be a long story to get into but you need to trust me on this. I could sing a million words of praise and it wouldn’t be enough. If they hadn’t have worked the magic that they worked then the rest of this entry would be full of blank paragraphs. Now, let’s talk about the con! 

One of the highlights for me was seeing Draco and the Malfoys perform live in concert. They are the whole reason I got into Wizard Wrock. Of course my tastes have expanded to other groups, but they started it all. And they sing from the Slytherin perspective, and we all know I am Slytherin. And they often sing from Draco’s perspective and what mother (Narcissa!) doesn’t want to hear songs from her son. I actually got to meet Brian (lead singer) before the concert. He was just an incredible guy. I told him I tweet him often. He asked for my Twitter name. I told him and he nodded that he recalls it. I imagine that could be true and not be just flattery because not a lot of people who identify as Jedi also identify as Slytherin. It is a tricky combination to say the least. He even consulted me about what sing I loved the most by him and he said he would make sure it was on the playlist. The fangirl moment almost became me jumping up and down and clapping and squealing, but I managed to keep my cool and smile and say thanks. The performance was amazing!!!!!!!! I will tell you right now – Draco and the Malfoys are even better live than on their CDs. Seriously. If you like Wrock and you get a chance to see them – do so! If you aren’t a fan, you should be. Whether DATM are your thing or another group is, you should be listening to something. Hell, even Scar (the Gryffindor) was singing along to This Land Is My Land. They could have performed for hours and I would have stayed (we were all starving). 

I met a few other people I consider nerd celebrities/Harry Potter celebrities. Jason Munday was there (he was polite) and was the first person I saw. I also got to meet Alex Carpenter who was really awesome. I met Kristina Horner and she was amazing. She even signed a note for Tink after I explained what a huge fan my niece is but that she is nine and can’t drive herself to the con. I wanted to hug her but I worried I would break her. But we talked about her necklace and she was just so cool. She is proof that Sytherins don't have to be horrible people. I met Luke Conard and he offered to take off his shirt for me. I can’t tell you how much I wanted that to happen (and Scar said YES! DO IT!) But I wanted Tinks note more and I had already told him I needed 2 things. If I let him remove his shirt I would have had to forgo mine or Tinks autograph. …. DAMMIT! I could have forgone MINE! I was worried about Tinks. Shit shit shit. Oh well. 

I did not do this convention as Narcissa. It was strange being near all the HP people as a common Muggle instead of as my regal pure blood self. Also, it was a little nice to be relaxed instead of trying to keep my hair out of my eyes. (I’ve considered a new wig for my Cissy costume but I do love that one I wear, it just makes me crazy with the bangs.) I have stated a hundred times before that I hate how they dressed movie Narcissa. The dark hair is so wrong in every way. Staying true to my beliefs and to the books I will continue to do book Cissy. I know I don’t get as much recognition that way, but I just can’t change to the dark hair. I did wonder about the clothing she wore in the DH2 movie. It was much nicer than the couch covers she wore in DH1. Still, I don’t know. I always imagined her and Lucius dress from the same wardrobe. He is beautiful and wears bows – so it makes sense. I will likely just stick with my skirts and tops and cloak. Narcissa is the unsung hero. I owe it to her to do it right even if everyone else messes it up.

I did meet a Lucius and Draco there. At first I didn’t stop to say hello because I was not in costume. Then after watching them a few minutes I was extremely impressed with the way they really looked the part. Noses in the air, eyeing others who were beneath them (which is everyone of course), and other things like that. I was impressed. So I went over to say hello. They managed to stay in character attitudes even when talking about personal things (conventions we attend, me showing them the bookmark I bought, etc). I was pleased to find out they will be attending Dragon*con for the Yule Ball. I hope to see them there. Lucius told me how to find him on google. So far no luck. I have to say, and I may be out of turn here, but they seemed very connected. What the connection is, I can’t say, but there is a connection between them. I think it added to the cosplay. I have this gut feeling they are pretty cool people. Bonus: they like turtles!

I bumped into Andrew in his Moody costume. I spent a little while chatting with him (and of course getting a picture) talking about our mutual friends and Dragon*con before taking off with Scarlett and Marcos. 

That brings me back to Scar. Finally getting to meet my bestie in person was amazing. She was every bit as awesome in person, if not more so. And her husband is made of win. Those two were just the most awesome people I could have hoped to spend my weekend with. It was really like we had hung out in person for years. Nothing was awkward at all. If we lived closer I know we would hang out more. Hell, even if it was like a 6-8 hour drive we would hang out more, but halfway across the country is far. Also, Scar is someone everyone would be blessed to have in their lives. She is loyal and devoted as well as fiercely protective. People like her are a blessing. (And her and Marcos are the cutest damn couple ever.) I still think Marcos has some Slytherin in him somewhere but Scar says it was all for the greater good so it’s Gryffindor. I love those two! <3 

I met a guy. He’s a friend of Scar that she has known online. It was their first time meeting as well. He fit right in. He introduced himself as Joey, but she calls him Daniel. Since most of us have professional names, friend names, online names, etc I don’t find multiple names weird. I answer to DJ, Yume, Narcissa/Cissy, and of course my given name of Denise. Hell, some people still call me Neicy. Anyhow.. he’s a fellow writer. He plays guitar and sings. He’s generally awesome. 

I tried to see Mani while I was there but Mani couldn’t make it. But I did let him know just incase he was free. I miss him! (and Whit, and TJ, and all my Orlando peeps!)

I do wish Ash could have made it. Originally she had planned to come. I know how plans fall apart so there are no ill feelings at all, but I still wish she could have made it. Jade too. Oh hell, and my sister.. and Lana.. and this list is about to get huge. 

Inevitably I had to come home. I’m still high from the con. And sore. But it was worth every single moment. I assure you this post cannot capture the amazing experiences I had this weekend. I tried to keep all the spazzing OMG SO AWESOME I ALMOST DIED types of comments out of here so it doesn’t read like a 12 year old wrote it – but it was hard!!! Because it truly was OMG SO AWESOME I ALMOST DIED!

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Reflections on Harry Potter as DH.2 is set to debut..

Avid readers are usually the first to discover wonderful little known treasures and then have full bragging rights of “I told you to read that 2 years ago.” when the book blows up into a monumental success. I never got to have those bragging rights with Harry Potter. I was, in fact, extremely late to the party.

Of course I knew about Harry Potter. The first time I heard of it was when Sting arrived on the red carpet with his children and said they couldn’t wait to see Philosophers Stone because they had been reading the books as a family. Hm, a book Sting reads with his kids? Sounds interesting. I put it on my “to read” list.

But I didn’t get around to it straight away. In fact, I didn’t get around to it until the release of the final book. Shocking. I know.

I would read about my friends attending release parties. I am a fan of such parties so I fully applauded their dedication. Still, I didn’t have time to read all these books. I would “get to it later.”

Then something happened almost on accident. My daughter sent me a Sorting Hat quiz. I had a vague idea of what the Sorting Hat was, since Harry Potter mania was everywhere – I at least knew the basics. I took the quiz and got Slytherin. My friend Becky commented she was surprised since I am so much like Hermione. “Explain.” I asked. She replied “Hermione and you have a lot in common. You both study very hard. You both hang around with more boys than girls, but you don’t want people to forget you’re a girl. She is really loyal to her friends and she will stand up for what she believes in.” I smiled. This is certainly part of how I see myself. So the hat quiz was wrong since I am clearly Hermione who belonged to the house of Gryffindor.

Later that night I talk to my daughter and tell her Becky said I am like Hermione. My daughters reply was “A bossy know-it-all?” .. .. .. well that was certainly NOT the description Becky gave. Admittedly I am also a bossy know-it-all, but I had to get to the bottom of this Hermione thing.

Deathly Hallows had been released less than 2 full days when I Wiki’d Hermione. I know, I know, in hindsight that was a rather bad place to go. Still, most people on the net (read: except for a few douchebags) were kind enough to post spoiler alerts. I somehow forgot how some people are not so kind. So I dove into the article in Wikipedia about Hermione. I found out EVERYTHING about her. Even the end of the 7th book.

I didn’t realize at the time that I had read the ending. I skipped on over to the Houses section. By definition I was clearly Slytherin. I had some traits of the other houses, but when it came to it – I was Slytherin. I went back to the Hermione article and clicked the link to Lupin, who had caught my eye earlier. I nearly fell in love with him there on the spot. It was there that I realized I had read the ending. I clicked out of the browser fast.

That weekend I went to my sisters. She had the first few books and I borrowed them. I knew how the story ended, now I needed to know how they go to the ending. I read the two she loaned me but couldn’t wait to borrow the rest so I bought them. I read them like a starving person. I was so hooked.

The fandom came hard and fast for me. It was like I had been a fan forever. The complex worlds, the deep characters – it was just so amazing. I, like the rest of the world, wanted to go to Hogwarts.

Then I began to really explore more of the fandom by attending the Yule Ball at Dragon*con. I met some wonderful people there. People I still look forward to seeing every year.

I met people in another online place I went to. Some of those wonderful witches are still my friends to this day. I don’t know them in the flesh, but online. Still, online friendships can be very intense and very fulfilling. I love those girls.

Something about Harry Potter is that I get to indulge fully into the fandom. Like my Star Wars obsession, there are conventions, music, people playing dress up.. even other people who will do bad fake European accents with me when we are in costume.

I have attended midnight opening premieres in my tiny town with a very large group of friends on more than one occasion. For the Half Blood Prince premiere I even made the front page (Slytherin takes down a Ravenclaw!) of the newspaper. We take two rows of seats when we fill the theater. My Harry Potter peeps are amazing.

I tell my children that some day they can tell their children how they saw Harry Potter on the big screen at premiere openings. It’s an experience their children will not have (unless we some day get prequels! But that’s another blog.) I feel blessed to have seen Star Wars when it originally came, and now Harry Potter. I may have missed some things along the way (book release parties, the first few movies) but overall I still got to participate in this fandom. It is something I just hold so dear.

As a writer with a little world in my head, I sometimes try to imagine how emotionally overwhelming it is for Lady Rowling. The moments of seeing your characters come to life, seeing your world in full color on a screen 30 feet high, it must be the most amazing feeling in the world. I think I would cry of happiness all the time. But more so, one of my goals as a writer is to have other people fall in love with my characters as much as I love them. I want people to cry when they do, laugh when they do.. and Jo has achieved that. We love Harry and Hermione and Ron and Neville and Remus just as much as she does. That is what it’s all about. The money must be nice, but that isn’t all there is to it. It is so much more. She brought us a world that we love so passionately. Hogwarts, Diagon Alley, The Burrow, Malfoy Manor, all of those things are a gift to us. It is a gift that nobody can ever take away. It is a gift that will never get lost, never get chewed up by the puppies, never be stolen by an ex who “forgot” to return it. It is ours. Harry and his world will forever remain. 

Monday, July 11, 2011

The inside of my day planner.

My contact info is on the back cover.

(P.S. I am doing this from my phone so I hope the photo and text both show up.)

Sunday, July 10, 2011

In which Ems gives books away..

If you read, you should be following her.

I want to win the giveaway of epic awesomeness from @Darth_Chic!

Sunday, June 26, 2011


My son is a self-proclaimed Buddhist. He declared this somewhere around the age of 10.

The University I am currently attending is a private University. It is also a Catholic university. I am not Catholic. (I’m not anything really. I’m a potpourri of many things.) We are required to take a religion course regardless of our major. Instead of all the Catholic classes I chose Eastern religions.

This class was as fun and enlightening as I imagined it would be. I loved so much about the course. But I have to be honest; it was also one of the harder courses I have taken. I am pulling an 83 right now. I am floored that I am making such a terrible B in the class. My final exam will make me or break me. If I get a C I will actually cry. A B makes me sad but not devastated. A B is really a fine grade all things considered. Still, I was so sure I would do better.

All in all I learned a lot and really feel more enlightened to so many things. A lot of the ways I had always felt about things are apparently not so isolated and weird – they actually mean something in other religions. It is a nice feeling.

Also, it helps me with Trey’s Buddhist life. He knew some basics when he declared this a year ago (two years ago almost?) but now I was able to say things like “Hey, did you know blah blah blah?” and we can talk about it. I even bought him a Buddhist statue. It is a healing Buddha (some of you know how disabling his allergies can be). (Side note:  I also bought him Tibetan healing beads made of yak bone – he said that’s as manly as a bracelet can be. Yak bone! And it looks really good on his wrist.)

I’ve always said my son was an old soul. He talks a lot and he is in so many ways a very typical 11 year old boy who is kicking in the door of being a 12 year old boy. But also, Trey is a wise soul. He has more patience (in some areas) than adults I know. His wisdom of friendship and life is often beyond my own understanding. Maybe he was a Buddhist in a previous life. (I have always believed in those, it just makes sense to me.)

What is the point of this post? A little whining about my grades (which I totally want to blame on a hardcore teacher {because he is insanely hard!}, but I know as a student it is ultimately my own actions that make the grades), an expression of my gladness to have learned that others do think the way I do, and also just to say that I am glad to understand this part of my son a little more. Overall, I think I just needed to make the end of that class something final. Working full time and going to University full time and trying to run a family as a single mom is a lot of damn work. A lot. Sometimes i just need a ritual ending. Maybe the end of each semester should result in a reflective post.

This is not a reflective post I suppose. It’s a bit self-indulgent to be relevant to anyone else. Still, it felt good to get these things written down. 

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

It was beautiful while it lasted–eh, sorta.

I first laid eyes on her while on a business trip to Pepsicola, or as others call it, Pensacola. I was looking for just her type. And there she was.Beautiful to the eyes. Cool against my fingertips.  Alone. And on sale.

My dear HP dv6 is now on its way to the great hard drive in the sky. She is about 3 1/2 years old but her time has come. I have used her more than she probably ever bargained for when I brought her home. But we had a good time together.


She has major power issues. Many of you know I am on my 3rd power cord with her. Even plugged in her battery wont go over 58-65% charge. If I unplug her she lasts roughly 20 minutes. That’s no life for a laptop.
Still, I carried on. I refused to give up.

Last week though… last week she gave up on me. She runs hot to the touch. Not just her battery parts, almost all her parts. Also, her battery is run down that she warns me every time at start-up that she might not even run ever again at all.

I gave in. I replaced her. Tonight my new laptop arrived. I pulled all the data from her and am moving it onto the new one. Tonight, my 3.5 year companion will be reset to factory standards, not even a single trace left behind. Then, she will be crushed and sent away.

A bright pink replacement has come into my life and I will devote as much attention and love to it. I even bought a case, something I never did for the other one. But the new one.. she will be housed in a Hello Kitty weatherproof protector. I anticipate many happy years together.

Monday, June 13, 2011

Don’t Ask Don’t Tell: What The Evidence Really Shows

This is a paper I had to do for my Military Psychology course at saint Leo University. We got to choose the topic so long as it pertained to the the Military. I chose gays in the military, specifically the Don't Ask Don't Tell policy. It was not an opinion piece, it was a research paper. For those unfamiliar with the random popping up of years, page numbers, and names, it is the APA style we are required to use. I miss footnotes.

Unit cohesion is a very vital part of military survival. Without a strong connection between the troops the unit can break down which leads to a variety of issues including isolation, depression, and lack of trust. (Kavanagh 1995) Being a gay man or woman in the United States is currently grounds for dismissal from the armed services. The Don’t Ask Don’t Tell policy is supposed to allow for gay service members to serve in the military so long as they do not reveal their status as being a homosexual or as a bisexual. Under current guidelines many military members serve with nonheterosexuals and do not know that they are. Therefore “perceptions of unit cohesion for heterosexual members who have and have not served with LBGT (lesbian, bisexual, gay, and transgender) service members cannot be compared.” (Moradi, 2009, pg. 514) Without this actual comparison other research methods must be examined in order to fully understand the implications of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell. Prior to the Don’t Ask Don’t Tell policy there was a much stricter policy in place. Given the key assumption that homosexuality was not a compatible lifestyle for members of the military, there was not a real distinction between homosexual acts and homosexual declaration. (Kavanagh 1995). Potential military recruits were asked if they were homosexual or bisexual. Elimination was imminent if someone were to declare themselves as anything other than heterosexual.
Many industrialized countries allow gay, lesbian, and bisexual people to openly serve in their military branches. The United States of America is one of the Western civilized militaries still holding out. One of America’s greatest allies, Britain, actively seeks out LBGT members for its Royal Navy. Of the twenty four foreign militaries (some of which are Britain, Israel, Canada and Australia) that have openly gay members serving, none of them have reported any breakdown in the cohesion of their units. (Buhrke 2006) The United States Department of Defense “has not produced supporting data and instead has repeatedly cited its own professional judgment which is inheritably subjective in nature.” (Moradi , 2009, pg. 541)
There have been exceptions made where the United States Armed Forces have allowed for openly gay and lesbian members to serve in the military without repercussions. “As the war effort increasingly necessitated the use of all available personnel… many homosexual men and women were allowed to enlist and serve.” (Moradi, 2009, pg. 539) During this World War II effort the gay men and lesbian women served openly and their orientation was known to their heterosexual counterparts. There is extensive evidence that they “served effectively in combat with the respect and admiration of those comrades.” (Moradi, 2009, pg. 542)
             With the Don’t Ask Don’t Tell in place there became a distinction between homosexual acts and homosexual identity. Depending on the incident there could be an outcome of reprimand, or an outcome of discharge. If a person is found to have had homosexual activity but shows no intent of a repeated pattern they may be allowed to stay in the service. “e.g., motivated by youthful curiosity or performed under curiosity”. (Moradi, 2009, pg. 540)  However, if a service member declares themselves to be homosexual or bisexual, they will be dismissed even if there is no proof of an actual homosexual act. It is all about the “propensity” towards the physical acts. (Kavanagh, 1995)
            It is the belief that homosexuals are unable to control their urges that lead to the distinction between nonheterosexual acts and nonheterosexual declarations. Gay and lesbian people are historically thought to be unable to stop the sexual urges for members of the same gender. It is believed they are predatory and consistently looking for another chance for sex. There are also beliefs that nonheterosexuals will force themselves on heterosexuals in order to convert them. The stereotype also exists that homosexual men and women are more likely to molest children. The empirical data does not support any of these beliefs. In fact, “adult male sexual assault and rape appear to be perpetrated primarily by heterosexual men.” (Herek, 1993, pg.  542).
            One of the arguments against gays in the military is the privacy factor regarding the close quarters. Often times military members will have to share sleeping quarters or showers. Some believe the gay members will use this time to gawk at straight members in order to satiate their primal desires. Quite the opposite could be true. With fear of retaliation it is likely that gay and lesbian members would avert their eyes even more than their heterosexual counterparts in order to avoid any false accusations. (Herek, 1993)  Many heterosexual people do not like being nakedly exposed to members of the opposite gender, there is no real reason to assume the same is not true for nonheterosexual members in regard to their same gender. “It should be recalled that gay men and lesbians currently serve covertly in the military. Hence, they are already present in the barracks and showers.” (Herek, 1993, pg. 543)
                        Another argument against openly gay and lesbian members serving is their need to flaunt their sexual preferences. Some heterosexuals could perceive a gay or lesbian or bisexual person as displaying their sexual orientation to the world over something that a heterosexual person would take for granted, such as displaying a photo of their significant other on their desk. In a heterosexual privileged world this would never be seen as flaunting ones heterosexuality, it is merely a display of the norm. (Herek, 1993). Hand holding, a sweet kiss on the cheek, and other displays of affection can be perceived as a flaunting from a gay or lesbian person whereas it is common place and acceptable from a heterosexual person.
                        Forcing gay men and lesbian women in the United States military to conceal their status can have the opposite results that many people expect. In fact, unit cohesion could be better served by allowing members to be openly gay or lesbian. Keeping the nonheterosexual status a secret can “promote social isolation, and through social isolation, reduce work commitment and performance.” (Moradi, 2009, pg. 515) it is important to note that the presence of openly gay and lesbian members will likely impact “social rather than task cohesion.” (Moradi, 2009, pg. 527)
             At this time there is no empirical data that combat is affected or unit cohesion is diminished by the nonheterosexual status of a military member. (Buhrke, 2006) For some heterosexual members it might be a new experience to serve with gay or lesbian or bisexual members, but this is no different than their other exposures to new cultures that comes with serving in the United States military. (Moradi, 2009) Once upon a time black people were only allowed in the military on an emergency basis and women were not allowed at all. Eventually they were allowed to serve with equal status. (Moradi, 2009)
The double standard exists regarding behavior of heterosexual members and LGBT members. According to Herek (1993) it is common for sexual harassment by a heterosexual male towards a female is seen as unacceptable behavior. A lesbian female, who sexually harasses another female, whether heterosexual or homosexual or bisexual, would be regarded as an unacceptable person. It is suggested that the lesbian offender be discharged, whereas the heterosexual male would be reprimanded.
            Coming to terms with sexual orientation can be difficult enough in the civilian world and adjustments to the Lesbian, Bisexual, Gay, and Transgender lifestyle may be even more difficult in the United States military. Some gay men and lesbian women will reach out for help when dealing with their feelings. However, it should be noted that the Department of Defense “grants commanding officers broad access to client records.” (Buhrke, 2006, pg. 96)
            There is a law in place in the civilian world that protects gay men and lesbian women from being discriminated against based on their sexual orientation. The United States military is able to have policies independent of the rest of the United States.  “Public opinion continues to be steadily but slowly moving toward support for same-sex marriage and civil unions. … When one looks at issues other than marriage (e.g., inheritance rights, health insurance, hospital visitation rights) a majority (sometimes sizable) of the American public already favors equal treatment.” (Brewer, Wilcox, 2008, pg. 313) In time the data to support openly serving LBGT members will have to come to light and allow for the passing of a non discriminating military.


Brewer, P. A., Wilcox, A. R. (2008) Value War: Public Opinion and the Politics of Gay Rights
            Rowman & Littlefield Publishing Group. 169 pp
Buhrke, R.A., Johnson, W.B. (2006) Service Delivery in a “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” World: Ethical Care of Gay, Lesbian and Bisexual Military Personnel
            Professional Psychology: Research and Practice, vol 37, no. 1 91-98
Herek, G.M. (1993) Sexual Orientation and Military Service: A Social Science Persepective
            American Psychological Association Vol 48, no. 5 538-549
Kavanagh, K. (1995) Don’t Ask Don’t Tell: Deception Required, Disclosure Denied
            Psychology Public Policy and Law, vol 1, no 1, 142 - 160
Moradi, B. (2009) Sexual Orientation Disclosure, Concealment, Harassment, and Military Cohesion: Perceptions of LGBT Military Veterans
            Military Psychology, 21: 513-533