Saturday, December 15, 2012
Friday, November 30, 2012
Life continues and we procreate, or know someone else who has. The new children, wide eyed and full of rawrs, continue the dinosaur legacy. We want to share with the little rugrats what we know.
Brian Russell has illustrated and written a very fun book that combines the initial childlike wonder meshed with bouts of science. The book is mixed with humor and science, and has a personal touch of his experience in learning about them (which is very likely to be on target with your experience too.)
Give the book a read if you get the chance. I think you will enjoy it. It will be for sale at a later date. If you don't have kids, find nieces and nephews or grandkids or godkids. It will make a good Christmas/birthday present.
P.S. Kickstarter has brought a few fun things into my life and this is no exception. If you haven't ever toured the site, you should. You can help make dreams come true.
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
Friday, November 9, 2012
Thursday, November 1, 2012
Additionally, there was a girl who had the argument that if god was not real then we would have no moral codes because without fear of the creator we would all be amoral. I was floored. I am not amoral. I might not be a saint but I am far from amoral. The thought that we can't control ourselves without fear of burning for eternity made me sad. Has she no faith in people at all? Does she think I will murder people at my own whim because I do not fear the flames? It made me very sad. Being without a belief in god does not make someone without a conscious or a sense of decency. I know beautifully kind atheists and I know very cruel Christians. People are people regardless of which side of the god line they are on. You have good and bad apples on both sides. How very very sad she made me.
Sunday, October 28, 2012
A cultural fixation on female thinness is not an obsession about female beauty but an obsession about female obedience. -Naomi Wolf
(cross posted across all my blogs/journals)
Saturday, October 6, 2012
Saturday, September 29, 2012
Wednesday, September 12, 2012
Side note: If you do not have a Kindle that's okay! You can also download it to your iPad, PC, Android phone, etc..
Tuesday, September 11, 2012
Saturday, September 8, 2012
The party is being thrown at our local BBQ place that has pretty much watched him grow up. They love that kid almost as much as I do.
On Trey's 12th birthday this discussion happened:
"Mom, can we have a Bah Mitzvah when I turn 13?"
"Nope. We aren't Jewish."
"Can we have a Treymistpha then? I'm Treyish."
How could I say no to that? So we have put together our own little party.
I bought Trey some Dr Who gifts, Lana got him a video game he wanted, Mom got him an amazing Buddha, and I think his dad got him a moving Vader bank. I know it isn't all about the gifts but come on, gifts are awesome.
Trey picked out a cake with a mustache on it. He said that's "A manly cake."
I'll share pics when I have some.
Monday, August 27, 2012
I can't sleep. All I can think about is how the essential plot twist to the novel I have spent four years on is ruined because I just read that exact twist (plus so much more that's alike) in another novel! I am just so sad. I can't tell hardly anyone because they are all going to be reading that novel. They know my novel already so they will probably see that other story plot twist coming a mile away like I did. Once they read it maybe I can cry on their shoulder. Until then I wait silently so as not to ruin their reading experience. But I'm sad. So so so so so sad. Takka City...what do I do? I can't see a way around that twist. That twist is everything. I'm feeling devastated and defeated.
Monday, July 16, 2012
I understand not all writers are Hemingway or Rowling. I get that. I am not blogging to trash the writing style, horrible as it may be. And I know authors are not obligated to be morally upstanding. But there is also a level of blatant irresponsibility as a writer and EL James found that level.
The man, Christian Grey is absolutely 100% not okay. What terrifies me is how many women think he is romantic. There is NOTHING romantic about the way he treats Ana.
The media also plays up this book and I can't help but wonder if this is not neglect on their part. They call it "hot", "racy" and a slew of other adjectives. DO THEY KNOW WHAT THIS BOOK IS ABOUT?!
I am publicly on record as saying Edward Cullen is a bad example of how to treat a woman - I tell you this, he is far better than Christian. I am on record as saying Bella is a horrible excuse for a woman.. Ana makes Bella look strong and smart. Yep, you read it here folks, I now say Bella and Edward are not the worst couple I have read about.
I would like to note that I am not mad about Christian being into BDSM. More power to you, we all have our kinks, right? If he wants to spank his lover, spank away! I won't ever be mad if she is in agreement.. ... But I am mad that he blows up her phone for not calling him when he thought she should. Pushy incessant needy demands is NOT ROMANTIC! I am mad that he keeps showing up EVERYWHERE she is. Stalking is NOT ROMANTIC! I am super duper pissed that he threatens her constantly when she says something he doesn't like. Threatening someone is NOT ROMANTIC!
I suppose the appeal of the book is the sex they have because a lot of people have not been exposed to that world. Okay, cool, you can like the sex parts of the book.. but I swear I do NOT understand how Christian is considered romantic AT ALL!
I promise you if that bastard was the last man on Earth I would be alone (well maybe some lusty Sundays here and there, but after that he has got to GO and never speak to me until the next lusty Sunday 3 months from now.)
I honestly think I wouldn't be so fired up about this if I didn't see people saying how amazing and romantic Christian is. I saw something on Pinterest that read "Men say they wish women came with a manual. Here you go." and it was a picture of 50 Shades. I nearly died. Another read "I keep hoping my boyfriend will find my book and go Christian Grey on me." Which part? The obsessive jealousy when another guy talks to you? The part where he receives your breakup letter and shows up at your house to screw you into taking him back even though you JUST SAID you were done with him?
I know people come with baggage. I get that. I understand that. And I know that nobody is perfect.. but Christian Grey is just... ...
How about this.. if you think he is romantic read this article in the link I am posting. It will take you less than 3 minutes. Please. Just..read it.
Wednesday, July 11, 2012
Wednesday, July 4, 2012
Saturday, June 30, 2012
I feel a loss because it has been something I have worked so hard on and been so proud of for so long. I also feel this relief because I am constantly haunted by the fact that the site sits there unattended to. It breaks my heart to let it go but it breaks my heart to neglect it.
I still own the rights to the dot-com and don't plan to give it away. Perhaps in a few years when my life is less busy I will restart the site. Perhaps I will not.
DBZ is still in my heart. Bulma and Vegeta are still one of my fav love stories. Future Trunks is still one of the people I want to hug the most.
still searching for Dragonball #4,
DJ aka Bulma of BloodOfASaiyan.com
Tuesday, June 26, 2012
With the last semester of my Bachelors degree approaching I have been doing a lot of soul searching. What to Master in?
I considered furthering myself in Psychology (my Bachelors focus) but not to be a therapist. Honestly I could never do that job. I don't think I have the patience (compassion?) to listen to people whine incessantly about First World Problems. Don't misunderstand me, there are people who have genuine problems and I am so glad there are therapists to help them. If I DID continue my Psychology degree I would want to be a Life Coach. I feel like I already do that in so many ways at my present job.
I considered an MBA. I have an Associates in Business with a focus on Small Business. MBA's are hot in demand and expected to remain so. I would have to have Masters level Accounting and Masters level Economics. No thanks. I know, I know, I always tell people to face fear and conquer it.. but this is not just average fear, I know my capabilities and I barely got out of Economics and Accounting (1 and 2!) at the undergrad level - Grad level will slay me. So I find this a logical decision.
I love my job. With a passion. I have never in my life loved a job the way I love this one. I have a purpose. I make a difference (at least I think I do!) I am hands on with college students. I feel (Cue the corny music) like I found my calling. So what can I do with my educational future to support my current job? Well it just so happens that there are such things as Masters programs in Student Affairs (Student Services, depending on the college). A Masters degree that ties into my job?! It's perfect.
Will I be as marketable as I will be with an MBA? Nope. Will I be happier continuing this path of fulfilled happiness than I would be if I ventured off into another one of material paychecks? Yep.
I'm not trying to say I don't like a good paycheck. I like things. And I love conventions. So yes, please pay me! But I will absolutely get work in the Student Services field with this degree and the experience I already have. I really think I will be a happy person with this decision.
A load is off my shoulders now. I see the path before me. It isn't full of golden leaves and diamond sidewalks, but it is full of joy and fulfillment. I choose happiness. I hope you will choose your path of happy, (even if for you it's the material stuffs.. be happy!)
P.S. If the universe chooses to reward me with happiness AND money I will certainly not complain! Just sayin.
Tuesday, June 5, 2012
I stumbled across this on the net. I think all men (and women!) should take notice. My personal favs are 4, 6, 10, 11 and for the love of all that is holy, numbers 7 and 9. Seriously.. numbers 7 and 9.
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
How to Meet and Woo a Nerdy Girl
Recently, I’ve noticed a lot of folks coming to The Park Bench after Googling “how do I meet a nerdy girl?” Hopefully, this is not the manifestation of some creepy new human trafficking trend but instead is the result of more people wanting to find and date the nerdy woman of their dreams. With that in mind, I offer the following tips:
Tip #1: Know where to look.
The number one thing to know about nerdy girls -- they're probably not going to be doing body shots at the local sports bar on a Friday night. If they're out partying, it's over a micro-brewed pale ale in the quiet corner of their local hole-in-the-wall watering hole. Other good places to spot nerdy women: libraries, bookstores, used bookstores, any other place with books you can think of, comic book stores, knitting stores, craft stores, sitting in the park...reading a book, the local cat fanciers convention, at a midnight showing of "Alien" or in their living rooms, watching "Firefly" again.
Tip #2: It helps to look like this guy: ((these are clearly dead links. I don't even recall who the guys were in the pic.))
On the other hand, it helps to look like this guy too:
You're pretty much good either way.
Tip #3: Read lots of books.
Here’s the brutal truth: the nerd girl of your dreams is a brainiac. She’s going to know a lot of stuff about a lot of stuff. You’re going to need to study up -- none of that sitting at the coffee shop with an unread copy of “The Waste Land” in your hand, trying to impress the shallow ladies. Your nerd girl will check to make sure that the spine on the book is cracked and cracked good. She likely also will ask you to compare “The Waste Land” to “The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock.” If you have to resort to Cliff's Notes, do it surreptitiously. It’s like getting a butt implant – the nerd girls will know you’re faking it.
Tip #4: Don’t slack off on your video game skills.
One of the prime perks of dating a nerdy woman is that she will not yell at you for playing video games rather than, say, going shoe shopping with her. In fact, she likely will sit down next to you and pick up a controller. Here’s the thing though: she’s probably good at whatever game you’re playing so you better be good at it too. Whether it’s Mario Kart or Tiger Woods Golf or the bloody carnage of Grand Theft Auto, she will show no mercy. Practice, practice, practice!
Tip #5: Listen to NPR. (debatable)
Nerd girls like to stay up to date on their current events…and they like to do it with the dulcet, sometimes somnolent tones of NPR broadcasters. Beware, though, of the onset of NPR depression which stems from listening to so much news and sad stories about flooding in Nova Scotia or the inequities facing migrant workers that you become convinced the world is doomed and there’s no use leaving your house in the morning. This will put a damper on your dating. However, this prevalent disease also will give you an out if you've had to slack off on your NPR duties – just say, “I had to take an NPR break. Sometimes it makes me sad.” This serves two purposes: it gets you off the hook AND it makes you look sensitive. Bonus!
Tip #6: Be interesting.
Whereas a lot of ladies want you to be rich, nerdy women just want you to be interesting. Do you have a comic book collection that spans decades and rests in a vault somewhere untouched by human hands? That’s kinda cool. Are you learning how to do animation so you can one day post the adventures of a hobo cat online? That’s kinda cool too. Maybe you build houses for the poor on weekends or spend an afternoon teaching creative writing to high school kids? Awesome and more awesome. It doesn't matter what you do, just do it well.
Tip #7: Know your pop culture references.
Know the complete works of the Nerd Holy Trinity: Joss Whedon, J.J. Abrams and Peter Jackson. Know that Nathan Fillion will always be on your girl’s “freebie” list. When she goes to church and thanks God that Robert Downey Jr. survived the 1980s so he could play Iron Man, say “Amen” right alongside her. And for the love of all that is sacred and holy, do not EVER get “Star Wars” and “Star Trek” confused: one has Wookiees, one has Shatner, it’s not that hard.
Tip #8: Compliment her by saying, “You remind me so much of Liz Lemon.”
This is truly the highest form of flattery for just about any nerdy woman. Liz Lemon is our patron saint. Her inability to wear high heels, keep food off her face or refrain from making penis jokes while holding a tower made of Legos in her hands makes us reflect fondly on our own quirks. We love her…and you should too.
Tip #9: Embrace her collectibles.
That is not a euphemism for something pervy. It’s just a fact. When you walk into her apartment for the first time and notice a glass cabinet filled with a miniature TARDIS, a sombrero-wearing Giles, a 17-inch Han Solo and a two-foot long replica of the Enterprise NCC-1701-D, do not say, “What the hell is all this stuff?” Instead say, “What the hell? Why don’t you have MORE of this stuff? And may I mail order something for you?”
Tip #10: Be willing to go to conventions.
It’s just a thing we do. Relax and embrace it…and know that nine times out of ten, you’ll catch a glimpse of some nubile young woman dressed as a Princess Leia slave girl. It’s what the universe does to reward patience of our significant others.
Tip #11: Know what to do in a zombie attack.
We've been practicing for this one for a long time. We don't want to have to leave you behind.
Well, that about covers it. Congratulations on taking your first steps on the road to nerd girl nirvana. Know that you have selected the finest kind of woman possible. Way to go, champ!
Sunday, May 27, 2012
I find myself typically liking what the majority of my reader friends like. I'd like to think it is not a sheep mentality, but rather having a set of friends with similar tastes - that is something that makes people friends right? Similar tastes?
One of the books I am struggling with right now is City of Bones from the Mortal Instruments series. I really want to like it! I have been reading it for months now. It just can't hold me. I read it when I have nothing else to read. When there is something else, City of Bones gets put on the back burner. I really want to feel more engaged with the characters. I like some of the City of Bones characters well enough but just.. I don't know - I feel like it is lacking something. What though? How can I get more engaged with the characters so I WANT to keep reading it?
Let me back track a little. Sometimes love stories drive books. And if done right it is totally okay. Matched (from the trilogy that I cannot wait for book 3 to arrive already!) is a story that shows us the love story is key to the plot, BUT it is not a desperate set of characters who control and manipulate each other. They are strong independent people who love each other in healthy ways. Passionate and strong characters drive the story in a way that you don't feel trapped in a 12 year olds warped fairytale. Does that make more sense?
Anyhow, I just had some thoughts to share. I know we all read differently (and I know some of my friends really like Twilight - and you guys know where I stand so this is no surprise to anyone.) and I am glad we are not clones of each other. But.. what can I do about City of Bones? Any tips? Do they get more exciting as they go because let's be honest - Goblet of Fire was WAY MORE exciting than Sorcerers Stone.
Edit: I take back everything I said! I am SO ENGAGED NOW! So glad I stuck it out because I am completely and totally addicted now. And can we please talk about how awesome Magnus is? Holy cow!
Sunday, April 29, 2012
A gentleman who I have seen around the Lars Homestead group is getting together funds to have a C-3PO costume. With this he plans to visit children in hospitals. I want you to imagine a sick child getting a visit by 3PO. Yeah, I got misty eyed too. And I got paid this week and decided to skip a trip to Wasabi and donate to this. I think things like this are important. Even a Pound (Did I mention that he is in Europe?) makes a difference. Skip a latte and drop $5 his way. Some day the kids will benefit.
Here is his blog. Check him out.
Tee-Threepio: Human Cyborg Relations: "Oh, yes, that's very good, I like that... Oh! ": Tonight's update ends the weekend on a positive note, which is great because I was getting worried that no donations would come in this week...
Thursday, April 5, 2012
Saturday, March 31, 2012
I've all sorts of things I want to blog about - deep, shallow, and stuff inbetween.. but my mind is too scattered. Even my March Favs for The Lipstuff Blog is very very slow writing today. Maybe I just need to pop in Dance Central and get my groove on. After Mochi of course.
Saturday, March 24, 2012
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Sunday, February 5, 2012
Confession: One of his characters stays with me so hard that every single time I write a new character of my own, I recall something about Jessie. Jessie, a neurosurgeon, always kept a gameboy in her labcoat pocket. She would get stressed, go hide somewhere, whip it out, and play. I remember thinking that A) made her super cool, B) it was a great quirk while really helped bring her to life. And I always think of her when I see someone playing Tetris. I (almost) always think of her when I am writing.
But really almost everything by him is really good. Don't let my first paragraph deter you. HE IS AWESOME!
In related news, the awesome book blogger Ems is having a contest to give away a SIGNED COPY of the new novel! OH EMM GEE! If you want to enter, you totally should. This is huge. And amazing. And it's MICHAEL FREAKING PALMER!
Tuesday, January 24, 2012
I love her.
|1976 with Mom|
|1988 Debbies graduation|
|2011 pirates on the Disney Cruise|
Tuesday, January 10, 2012
So recently I found out why John went to the trouble of pre-signing all these papers for so long. I mean seriously - imagine how many Sharpies he went through! How many hand cramps he had! How many times his eyes must have crossed. I am glad his name is short John Green and not long like Rumpleclothesfromnosleep Vegetabletsandwichdude.
Anyhow.. John Green did this because he knows he can't go on tour everywhere. He only tours to major cities usually. And even if he toured to small cities, he can't hit every single one. And John Green wanted people to have the chance to get an autographed copy. He wanted ~everyone~ to have a chance. That includes me, here, in my town that doesn't even have a book store.
Thank you John Green. I hope when I become famous like you that I will remember to give everyone a chance too. People in small towns don't get book tours. People in small towns without book stores are drowning in desperate need of connections to the world of literature.
Side note: I really would love to get a Hanklerfish. But if another Nerdfighter needs it more than I do, I'll sacrifice my fish.
Edit @ 7:02 p.m.: My book arrived! I did not get the Hanklerfish but I did John Greens signature in a green sharpie! Ya know what? That is a score! I am happy. I'm also putting my current read on hold so I can go through this book. I've been waiting a long time to read it! DFTBA!!